I existence is within a gadget, be it human

I was walking back to
my seat after buying a bottle of water from the stall in the bus stand. I see
four young small kids sitting quietly down, next to each other. To see such
young ones sitting silently is a strange wonder. After all when I was small I
would loiter around, and wander in my own imagination.

“Divya, you better wait
there!” was a constant statement I was often told, by my parents and here I had
a complete different scene.

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I moved, on thinking
that children now are more disciplined and better off than I was when I was a
child, impulsive and impatient. I boarded the bus and it started, that is when
I noticed the same young kids boarding along with me.

I was astonished, when
I saw them all hold tight their mother’s hand and get in. I was thrown back to
my childhood where I would set my foot first and every step would be an
adventure to me and then my parents would follow and here, it’s all different.

They soon settled down.
As the journey started, I heard youngsters talk, elders talk and even laugh,
but was astonished to not hear these young lively kids.

I turned back and saw
them and then I realized, looked to myself and sighed.

I now realized what was
happening. They all had gadgets in their hands. A mobile, a tab, an Ipod and a
laptop. All busy and engaged with their own virtual world. I was so disturbed
because this is not the trend just in youngsters, but young kids who are just
of the Secondary and Primary schooling.

For today’s generation
the whole existence is within a gadget, be it human connection or co-curricular
activity and learning, and the worst is when they are unknowingly supported and
encouraged by their parents.

Here are the top five
errors parents commit, when their child is in growing years:

1)  
Corporate Food Habits

Presence of
corporate food outlets like Dominoes’, KFC, Pizza Hut call the young minds to
have a quick bite from the food these outlets offer. Children get so attached
to them because of their artificial taste which savour the taste buds and they
start developing an aversion to the food prepared at home, which is healthy and
nutritious. Once this craving remains, the child develops an urge to consume it
and when the demand is rejected, children develop gradually an anger and disobedience
towards elders. Finally mood swings set in making it the parent child relation
strain.

 

2)  
Best clothing makes my kid the best

Clothing alone
can’t define the character of the child, but parents often think that dressing
the child in the best that they can afford makes the child a presentable
trophy. Clothing alone makes a man well presentable, but not well mannered.
Well mannered is only possible when they are draped with culture and traditions.

Children on the
other hand are seen demanding branded clothes thinking that if they maintain
the standard of their look, they will be more acceptable and regarded in the
society.

 

3)  
Keeping the child unaware of the financial matters

‘An income in the
family is to be saved and thoughtfully spent’, is a simple thought which should
be embedded in the minds of the children from a very young age. Parents keep
this as a secret and develop a mentality that they are too small to have their
say

This makes the
child develop a false expectation and broken from the family.

Sharing my own
personal experience, I too was kept unaware of my financial status, when I was
doing my secondary schooling. For every Parent Teacher meeting, I would ask my
mother to wear a trendy top and jeans, so as to fit into the club of rich
friends. She would always wear chudidar and I would feel awkward to see her
stand with other moms who were dressing in jeans.

Earlier it
started with a request and soon it became a tantrum. I decided to talk rude to
her if she did not fulfill what I asked.

When I saw my
mother wear jeans as I had asked her, I smiled but it immediately vanished when
I saw the uncomfortable feeling on her face. I realized my mistake of having
expecting something which is not practically possible. I apologized and asked
my mother to dress in whatever she felt was comfortable and saw her smile. I
had accepted my financial status and the mindset we are surrounded with.

 

4)  
Lollipop for every work done?

Take simple examples of children’s
demand from primary to an undergraduate

{Primary Section}

Kid: “Dadda, I don’t want to go to
school!”            

Dad: “You go to school and I will
buy you a toffee.”

 

{Secondary Section}

Kid: “I will not do my homework”

Dad: “Do it and I will give you my
mobile phone to play.”

 

{Higher Secondary Section}

Kid: “I am not interested in
studying further”

Dad: “You study well and get good
grades and I promise you the

           latest mobile cell”

 

{Under graduation}

Kid: “I am so bored with these huge
books. I am going to quit”

Dad: “I will gift you a bike if you
study and finish graduation.”

 

And the list goes on. This is a
very common happening today. Lollipops, chocolates, late night outings, trending
vehicles, pocket money are becoming a very common form of bribe which is done unknowingly.
In the process of upbringing the child, we fail to draw a line between appreciating
the good in our kids and bribing them to be good.

 

5)  
Gadgets are the new friends

Children see electronic gadgets as
their soul-mate. Maps, games, chatting, photos, videos and music have become
the most common used apps in the gadget. 24/7 is the time limit that children
are attached and glued to the gadgets. Earlier gadgets accompanied children
only when they were out of home, but now it’s an accompaniment even when they
are on the beds and worse in the bathrooms.

The need of human connection is a
erased memory from the minds of the young and are substituted for a non-emotion
machine.

Parents too agree to keep them busy
by providing them with such as busy children don’t disturb the routine work of
parents and often become easier to handle.

 

 

Solution:

Food habits of the children should
be strictly monitored by the parents. Videos which highlight the nutrients
present in home food should be displayed to kids and also a comparison shall be
made of the junk food to home food. Small charts indicating the level of harm
junk food can do should be made, as a team, to inculcate in the child reasons
why they should be not consumed on a daily basis.

 

Being presentable is vital in
today’s world, but that alone is of no use. Clothing looks great only on those
who adorn them according to their character. Costly clothes will only help to
be accepted in the society, but character will help one to be loved by all in
the society. Children gradually should comprehend that beauty and body are
temporary and perish while character remains immortal.

 

Financial matters might be a very
sensitive topic to be discussed, yet small decisions which can include them
shall be discussed with them. Realization of the monetary expenses at a very
young age will help the child to know the value of money, save and budget the
expenses, which is very much needed in today’s living.

 

Bribing is a very huge mistake
which occurs in small actions happening between the parents and children,
making the child take a step over the parent as the parent readily offers the
child things they like. Parents then fail to realize that bribing soon turns to
demands and tantrums, at times which can’t be accepted by the parents
themselves.

 

The world is getting busier day by
day, but spending time with children and having a human connection should be
made as a priority in parents’ life. After all they too crave for your
attention and when they are deprived of it, substitute it with gadgets.