Harhys StewartNeuro-Linguistics programming, also known as NLP, is the language of our minds. We consciously set targets and goals in our everyday lives. However it is our mind which unconsciously does everything to make those goals achievable. By translating and understanding what our mind is is constantly contemplating, We will eventually figure out what our priorities in life are and what we hope to get out of our lives.
I will be explaining two concepts under the extensive umbrella that NLP is. NLP PresuppositionsThe First concept is NLP Presuppositions. If the NLP is a religion or a way of life, then its presuppositions would be its guidelines or rules. There are a total of fourteen NLP presuppositions.
However, in my opinion, there are some presuppositions who are more important or relatable than others. Therefore I will not be going through all fourteen of them. The first presupposition is ‘The map is not the territory’. This simply mean that our opinions and our version of reality is based on our experiences. The map is our mind and our experiences, while the territory is the whole picture (everyone’s different interpretations).
Our understandings may or may not be the same as others and may or may not be completely accurate. A quick example is how some people dislike certain foods and others may like them. We all have different interpretations of different experiences.
By looking through different situations through different spectrums (be more open minded), we can expand our maps. The second presupposition I will explain is ‘People make the best choice they can at the time’. This basically point out that any decision or choice that anyone makes, is the best choice possible in that given moment according to their internal ‘map’. We can also look at it in another way. The decisions we make are made on the basis of our past experiences and all the information available at the time. For example, NBA player Kevin Durant shockingly chose to leave his team, the Oklahoma City Thunder (OKC) to join the Golden State Warriors (GSW).
At the time it seemed a brash and bizarre decision as his team had just gone to the Western Conference Finals. However in Kevin’s mind, according to his map, he would have a more successful tenure at GSW the staying with OKC. In hindsight, Kevin Durant ended up winning the NBA Finals in his first season after this move. Therefore in hindsight, Kevin’s mind made the best decision based on his top priority/target and he ended up achieving this. An example where NLP Presuppositions have come into my life. is the time when I transferred to Singapore Sports school two months into Secondary 3.
I had been in Hong Kah Secondary until then, and had made friends and was doing well in sports and my studies. Then one day, out of the blue, my parents told me i would be transferring school next week. I was shocked and slightly angry. Nonetheless, i transferred even though I my conscious did not want to. In the end the presupposition ‘People make the best choice they can at the time’ was right as I did even better in sports continued doing well in studies and have an overall better experience compared to one i would have had I stayed at Hong Kah.The last presupposition i will highlight is ‘We already have all the resources we need, or we can create them’. Almost any goal is achievable to us.
However we may not be consciously aware of it. Every individual has resources which are useful in some way. Most of the time, hard work, patience and determination is needed additionally to these resources. We can also upgrade resources to be more suited to different jobs or activities.
The saying ‘hard work beats talent, when talent doesn’t work hard.’ is a great example. Someone without the necessary resources can still succeed, through sheer will power and hard work. This presupposition really relates to me as i have gone through something like it. During my younger years, I really struggled with Maths. I usually scraped through with a pass and rarely scored distinctions. However, once i got into Secondary 3, my Maths teacher really pushed me. I was doing maths nearly everyday for an hour or more.
Little by little my grades got better and for my Major Summative test at the end of Secondary 4 I passed with a distinction. Representational SystemsThe second topic I would like to talk about are the Representational Systems of NLP. Representational systems are primary ways we experience the the things around us.
They are essentially our senses which we use to store and explain past experiences. There are 5 Representational Systems in total. (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, Gustatory, and Olfactory).
However we mostly work with the Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic Representational Systems.We as humans all have our preferred Representational System. Over time they may change. My preferred system is Visual.
This means that when learning or partaking in new activities, I would rather someone physically demonstrate it or perform it. Another example is visualisation. Before every football match, I like to imagine myself doing well. Scoring a goal or making a good tackle. This helps me come match time.An example of when Representational Systems come into play is in school. I usually cannot concentrate well if a teacher just talks for the whole lesson. I will need visual cues as well as videos which will help me understand topics better.
Below are the tendencies of people with different Representational Systems.People with a visual preference, will tend to:Be organized, neat and well-groomed. Why? Because they want to look good. And what do they expect from you? Yes, the same thing!Use visualization for memory and decision making – often getting insights about something.
Be more imaginative and may have difficulty putting their ideas in words.Speak faster than the general population. Why? Because they have a picture(s) in their mind and if it is a moving picture, there is a lot to tell in so little time!Prefer in-person interactions – to see the other person and his/her reactions.May seem to talk about disjointed topics. Why? Because they see the whole picture and it is easy to jump around to different parts of it.
May have difficulty putting their ideas in words. Why? Because there is so much they see in their minds.Want to see or be shown concepts, ideas or how something is done.Want to see the big picture.May not remember what people have said and become confused if you give them too many verbal instructions. However, if you can draw a map or picture for them, then they can see what you are saying.Remember faces more easily than names.Be distracted by visual activity and less so by noise.
People with an auditory preference, will tend to:Be more aware of subtle change in the tone of your voice and be more responsive to certain tones of voice.Perceive and represent sequences and are able to remember directions or instructions more easily.Learn by listening and asking questions.
Enjoy discussions and prefer to communicate through spoken language rather than the written word.Talk through problems and like to have someone available to serve as a sounding board for their ideas.Need to be heard.Be easily distracted by noise.
People with a kinesthetic preference, will tend to:Speak slower than the general population. Why? Because they need time to get in touch with how they feel about the topic.Be more sensitive to their bodies and their feelings and respond to physical rewards and touching.Learn by doing, moving or touching.Dress and groom themselves more for comfort than how they look.Make decisions based on their feelings.Stand closer to other people than those with a visual preference – to feel the other person’s energy, whereas the person with a visual preference will stand back to see more of the other person (body language, etc.
). People with an auditory digital preference, will tend to:Have a need to make sense of the world, to figure things out, to understand.Talk to themselves and carry on conversations with you in their mind.
Often they will say they remember discussing something with you, when you actually did not have the conversation. They did, however, in their mind!Learn by working things out in their mind.Not to be spontaneous, as they like to think things through.Have logic play a key role in the decision process as do facts and figures.Memorize by steps, procedures, sequences.In conclusion NLP is extremely useful for planning.
It also helps me be more efficient and understand myself better, which will help me lead a more effective lifestyle from now on. This will be extremely helpful as my next couple of years will definately be hectic as I continue to pursue Sports and Academics at a high level.