Cameron Gillis is not like everyone else. Cameron was born in Orlando, Florida to Jill and Brian Gillis, during the sweltering month of August 2001. Since the day she was born her parents knew that she would never live a regular life. Cameron is unable to make decisions for herself.
Everything she does is out of her control, for it is the actions of others that influence her decisions. Cameron Gillis lives according to how those around her act. She wants to be the best version of herself. But she is unable to do so when the people around her are always negative. Cameron needs to find someone who will impact her in a positive way through their words, actions, and attitude because that is what she believes is the meaning of her life. “Treat others the way you want to be treated”(Biblehub.
com, 2018). Is something that Cameron has heard her parents say time and time again, but it doesn’t matter how hard she tries because the way she treats others depends completely on the way she is treated. As Cameron grew up she began to realize that she does not control how she acts. It is those around her who control who she is and who she will become. School is the hardest for her because the way others speak to her is how she speaks to others.
Those in her class talk about terrible things, they speak in rude tones, and are altogether mean to each other. As others speak in negative ways she begins to speak negatively. Cameron tries so hard everyday to be positive and to encourage others by talking to them but she can’t. She wants to be able to comfort people when they are feeling sad, or to be able to give positive advice to those who need that extra push of encouragement but there is no point in trying because she knows it is impossible. One day Cameron was waiting in the lunch line when she heard the group of kids behind her talking about the new girl at school and her family. They talked about how her house looked like a landfill and how her parents were drug addicts. Cameron knew none of that was true but she couldn’t help but join in.
She then realized that the new girl was standing just a few people ahead. Her name was Kelly. Her eyes began to well with tears as she hurried out of the cafeteria. Cameron had never felt worse and she knew she had made a big mistake and she had to fix what she had done. Day after day she listens to the gossip and negative remarks that people make and she observes the reactions of those whom the gossip is about. In her mind Cameron knows that she should put a stop to the gossip; she knows that she should not pass it along because it will hurt others.
But the impact has been made and she has no choice but to follow the trends. Are words really what people notice, or is it the way we say those remarks and the way we act when we hear and talk about them?No one understands the common phrase “actions speak louder than words” more than Cameron. Body language is what impacts her the most. If you watch people closely you begin to understand their body language. When you mention new foods, experiences, or ideas people have an opinion.
They are usually able to contain their thoughts about the concept at hand and speak only what they think you want to hear. But body language is something they are doing without even knowing. If a new idea is mentioned that someone doesn’t agree with they may say it’s great, but you see their shoulders slouch, face fall, and enthusiasm fade. So you know they dislike what you have said. Cameron wants more than anything to be able to express how she truly feels but the negativity of others rubs off on her without anyone knowing. As you live your life you say more than you know without even trying.
Since Cameron is influenced so easily she pays close attention to the body language of others. She still remembers the day that Kelly rushed out of the cafeteria with tears dripping down her cheeks. As the group behind her talked about Kelly they were over confident in themselves you could see it in their stance. Shoulders back, head held high, hip stuck out, and arms crossed like they were at the top of the world. Only to see the one who was hurt by those words and actions, Kelly. Her shoulders slouched and her face hidden using her hair as a shield.
Trying to make herself seem smaller so she could disappear in the mass of people. Cameron always tried to remember: “Kindness connects to who you are, while niceness connects to how you want to be seen”(Levithan, n.d.). Both words and actions contribute the attitude that a person has towards someone or something. Attitude is the settled thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically reflected in a person’s behaviour. A person’s attitude speaks more than words could ever express. When you are trying something new do you have a good attitude towards it? Or, do you go into a new experience thinking it is going to be terrible and a waste of your time? A person can be influenced through words and through actions but both express our attitude.
Cameron tries to express her positive mindset through her attitude but yet no one can see it. “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice.
Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely” (Carnegie, n.d.). Cameron wants more than anything to be able to show people who she really is but the negativity of others traps her. She wants to be the one to change the lives of others. Her teachers would always tell her that she needs to be the change that she wants to be in the world.
Cameron has so many ideas bumping around in her head but there is nothing she can do about it. Defeated. It was time for Cameron to be the person she wants to be. To treat people the way she always knew she should. She surrounded herself with the people she always wanted to be like; kind, honest, funny, forgiving. When she was with those who made her feel like herself she was happy and she felt as though she was taking a small step to being the influencer instead of the one who is influenced. In the event of Cameron becoming the girl she always wanted to be she decided to go find Kelly.
She apologized for everything that had happened and what she said. After everything was explained and forgiven she was overjoyed in finding that Kelly was who she wanted to be. Cameron found that: “Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create”(Goodreads.
com, 2018), was what she wanted to do. As long as she kept close with Kelly she would be able to be the best version of herself! Cameron Gillis was the girl who is unable to make choices on her own because she lives her life under the influence of others. We can all learn something from the life of Cameron. She notices everything from the way people treat others to the way people treat themselves. No one understands how much we impact each other more than Cameron. I think the meaning of my life is to impact and influence everyone I meet in a positive way. The meaning of my life is to have a positive impact on those around me through my words, actions, and attitude.
By doing so I can make a change in this world one person at a time. Being a positive influence on others is how I want to live my life and how I would like to be remembered. What is the meaning of your life? Is a question that everyone should ask themselves every once in a while.
When you ask yourself this question put yourself in Cameron’s shoes and see if you have a positive impact on those around you.”It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it” (Goodreads.com, 2018). Having a good attitude starts with you and the perspective you have on life!